Love is not life,its only a part of life....

This one comes from "Direct Dil se".The agony of a failed relationship took yet another high profile celebrity's life and I wont sympathize .Rather it creates an anguish within me for people wasting their precious lives such as this one.

Yes, I dont know about the intricacies of the big bad glamour world but surely I can relate the events in my own sense.There is this girl who dreams of becoming big in the fashion world,comes to India ,gets opportunity and reach the zenith after much toil and compromises. All is going well for her when suddenly she falls for a man. Everything goes fine for them initially and then suddenly things turn around. They have frequent quarrels and face-offs.Unable to bear, girl goes into depression and then suddenly she took her life. This is my view of things. And this story doesn't holds for just one ,it stands true for hundreds of other couples.

I have just one question in mind.Why are mostly girls the victim of failed relation? Isn't the guy also a part of it..He never thinks about taking such drastic steps. Why so? Do girls get more involved and serious in a relation than boys?

The answers to these questions might vary from couple to couple, but it is surely a general tendency of the girls to get more emotionally involved in a relation.I am particularly saying this in context of middle class families of which I am myself a part of. I have seen many female friends of mine who have not only risked their personal lives but also professional career because of the words "Love and commitment".Guys always tend to be more practical than girls. They may be into a relation but when it comes to testing times, they take decisions logically as against girls who will go to any extent to make their relation work.

Being a girl myself and having faced such a situation before , I would like to advice few tips to those girls who face similar situations. Yes, its true that when relation doesn't seem to be working or has eventually failed either due to your fault or of the guy's, depression and loneliness does surround you. But then always think of moving ahead in life.It might seem tough at first ,but you have to be strong. Don't let your mind think of what happened again and again. Engage yourself in something that interests you .It may be anything like reading novels, watching favorite movies , shopping your fav. clothes, hanging out with friends etc etc. The point is that you need to come out of that thought.Once you do that, you will realize that there are ample of things that are better and can bring satisfaction to you. Remember that you had a life before you met that guy. Infact you were more social and had variety of activities to do . The same is the case now.

Having said all this, I never meant to defame guys. We cant change the way God has created us. But yes, it is always up to you as to how you shape up your life, how wisely you take your decisions. However, if a mistake has been committed, try to learn from it,don't let yourself get shattered.Maybe, after few years when you think of what happened, you might smile at it as I do. Remember that Love is a feeling that makes you smile and complete . One that brings frustration and tension is not love, its a failed compromise.